Did you know that any kid can be a bully? Before you knew it, it could be your angelic child who never dropped signs of aggressive behavior. Bullies come in different color, age, and gender and as much as we protect our beloved children from being involved in such harassment, sometimes we are taken by surprise that our own child is the offender. As such, we can help them eliminate bullying in their system and change for the better.
Acknowledge the behavior
It’s a natural reaction to get upset upon receiving a notice from school that your child is actively involved in a group of bullies. However, getting mad and scolding him for his hostile behavior is discouraged as it will only aggravate the situation. Instead, talk to him in a calm and firm manner and ask him about what happened. Tell him that making mistakes is normal but you don’t tolerate disrespect and mistreatment of others.
Emphasize the consequences
A lot of bullies are trapped in a notion that what they’re doing is right especially when they are not aware of the impacts of their misbehavior. Your role as a parent is to help your child understand the consequences of her aggressiveness. Emphasize that he/she is accountable for her wrongdoings by writing down the psychological and physical effects of his/her actions especially on the bullied child. As such, your child will realize how detrimental bullying can get.
Collaborate with the school to improve the situation
Just because your child is a bully doesn’t mean that you’re a bad parent. Sometimes the bullies are the kids whom we least expect as some of them are those that display good behavior at home. Reality bites but we can move forward by being proactive in the school’s protocol to address the issue. Be involved in planning out ways to help your child unlearn bullying. More so, monitor your child’s behavior progress by talking to his teacher or guidance counselor.