Children aged zero to two years old have the natural tendency to look out for their own best interests. Due to the limited view they have of themselves and the world around them, it is critical that they outgrow this phase once they reach age 3 and beyond. The following are helpful tips to raise kids that are selfless instead of selfish. Trust us, your kids will thank you this in the long run.
Make them follow rules
A mistake some doting parents unintentionally make is allow their kids to do whatever they want even if such an activity is evidently discorteous. No matter how much you love your child and think that they can do anything they want – such as touch an art piece in a museum, even if it is prohibited for them to do so – it is for their best interest that your kids follow rules. They should not be allowed to feel that they are exempted from any regulations. Their misbehaviour needs to be curbed, and setting strict guidelines is a must for them to know the lines they are not allowed to cross.
Feel free to say no
Saying “no” to your children helps them realise that the world does not revolve around their wants. This doesn’t mean you will never say “yes” to their requests, however, kids do need to hear “no” during times when they whine when they want you to buy that expensive toy or go to a place they are not allowed to. They must feel that your “no” is serious and thus you should stick to it. Doing so helps them avoid feeling entitled.
According to research, the act of reading stories to kids helps increase their empathy. Stories allow children to put themselves in another person’s shoes. They can understand the feelings of others more easily. It also shows children certain situations that are outside of themselves and their realm of awareness – thus increasing their view beyond their own world.
The world needs less selfish people. As a mother, it is our responsibility to nurture them in ways that would allow them to be better humans for their own sake as well as others.